Dear Female Photographer,
You know her. And she gets on your very last nerve. No matter how many good things are going on in her life at any given time, you know that she’ll spend the bulk of your next interlude whining and complaining about things. And by “things”, I mean … EVERYTHING.
She’ll say things like …
“Why does photographer X have sooooo many clients? Her work is out of focus half of the time and she makes people look 20 pounds heavier than they are!”
“It’s soooo hard to network. No one eeeeeever really listens and I end up wasting my time.”
“Coming up with ideas for my blog posts every single week is sooooo exhausting! I’m exhausted. This isn’t worth it.“
“There are waaaaaay too many photographers in this industry. Way too many. It’s a dying industry and we should all get new jobs.”
Now, truth be told … some might argue that there is nothing wrong with any of the above statements. In fact, most of them could be called truths.
Some people whose work is out of focus do have a lot of clients (and it can cause you to scratch your head). (Hahah, side note: For my very first wedding nine years ago, I confessed to the bride and groom that I was petrified and that they may end up with blurry images. They laughed and said, “We look best blurry.” So hey, maybe blurry photography should be a new trend ; ))
It is HARD to constantly network … especially when sometimes you do come up empty handed.
And yes. Oh yes. Blogging endlessly can be exhausting.
Are the days of photographers running lucrative businesses truly coming to an end? Maybe. It all depends on who you ask ; )
But it’s not what you say … it’s how you say it. And it’s how you let it make you feel. We all want to whine a little sometimes. But whining is a lot like wining. Some wine with your dinner from time to time is just fine. But if your day is nothing but wine, wine, wine … you’ve got a problem.
So … be careful. Pay attention to your words. Tune into your emotions. And if there’s too much whine time going on, a change is needed.
You can’t afford to whine all the time. Here’s why.
1. It affects your creative energy. All that time and effort needed to be negative could be put to SUCH better use.
2. It repels people from you. No one likes a negative Nelly!
3. It physically changes your brain. Just like positive thinking can literally program your brain for happiness and increased productivity, negativity can cause you to feel stressed, unhappy, and tired.
Pay attention to your thoughts and words, and nip any negativity right in the bud. You don’t need it in your life.
Be extra careful in photography forums where whining often abounds.
p.s. Positive thinking can actually change your brain … and therefore your business!